Albac

There are a number of issues in your sitch.

Have you read DB and DR?

Many of your questions are answered in those books.

DB is for you, not your R.

The main thrust is to put you in the place where you are doing that which is right for you. That which works for you.

Sandis rules are important at this stage as a guideline. I had mine laminated.

Getting your W back isn't the key here, you may achieve this only to retraced the loop again in another few years time.

The main aim is you and your growth and development.

V

Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW