My IC thinks that my medium to high anxiety attacks stem from how much I absorb from WAW in our interactions. He says that it sounds that I maintain my cool and in the moments it may seem that the barbs, accusations and verbal attacks just blow past, but I am actually just absorbing it all and that they start to manifest themselves as I think about them and then start plugging them in as more truth than they are into how I view myself.
He challenged me to set boundaries and the boundaries need to include that when she crosses them that I separate from the conversation and let her cool down and come back and resume once she reflects and can then conversate and focus on the facts and details not emotions. Sounds interesting in theory. Let's see if I can implement it and have her maintain some cool. He encouraged that I help my D17 so she can set the same boundaries.
I am anxious for her to move out and then see what issues I have that I can work on with my IC. He is confident we can get things under control within 3 to 6 months. I'll tKe that optimism for now.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
