my wife is a waw! trying everything to save it!

[anime92]

I am focused on myself, trying to explore new hobbys, getting back into art, socializing ect. Trying to find myself in all this mess.

At the end of the day though my preferred outcome is to not lose her regardless of what I am doing. I am not trying to do something specifically to save the marriage right now, unless getting myself together is doing something to save my marriage.

Do I want to save my marriage? yes! Will I survive if we split? Yes!

To quote another user

Part of me, a growing part, thinks I should just give up. Send him a text telling him to file and that my lawyer will be in touch.

I am right there with you in that feeling. We want the pain to stop and see that as a way to make it. It probably won't. I like to look at it this way.

Option 1) I say I want D, and we move towards it. What happens? I detach, GAL, 180's, make myself a better person for me and any future R and build a life for myself and kids.

Option 2) I don't say I want a D, continue to DB and fight the good fight. What happens? I detach, GAL, 180's, make myself a better person for me and any future R and build a life for myself and kids.

Ultimately, I see my actions as the same regardless. However; option 2 leaves the door open for someone whom I know I do love (despite the way I feel today and this crazy roller coaster we are on) Maybe one day my WW will be willing to do the work to rebuild our M. Either way I need to rebuild myself.

I'm no Vet, just how I feel...most of the time, lol.