Well maybe someone else can offer better advice but your last sentence there tells me your mind is still in a place where you are trying to "save" things with WAW. What you need to be doing is focusing on yourself and detaching. It's hard as hell, I know, but that seems to me to be the only way to hope for R. Live YOUR life, do things for YOU, believe me...that's what your WAW is doing...worrying about herself. The point is, the more you do for yourself, the better person you become. That is ultimately your best way to get WAW back...or not. Mine never came back and that shouldn't be your primary motive for self improvement, that you do for YOU! Of WAW comes back as a result of that then that's an added bonus... but that should not be the only goal. I've said before that DBing may not save your marriage... but it most definitely does save YOU! That's all that matters...the rest you have no control over.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
