Both. She's a WW who is walking away. Walking away to a man that is fighting for her vs a husband who is being very passive about the whole thing.
Thx TxHubby, I do agree I have been passive in the MR. I also realize my betrayal has fuelled and justified her A. So I have to let her carve her own path though it's likely doomed for failure - it's just a matter of when, not if.
Regarding exposing the affair, most feedback I've gotten is that If I were the one to expose it, I would take all the blame and it would push us further away. As you said, everyone knew about your Ws A at work, so it's just a matter of time before it blows up on it's own. I just don't want my hand to have any part of that.
In the meantime I am now onto LRTs, detaching, going dark and now GALing as much as possible. If there's any chance of reconciliation, I feel it will be far out from now.
I'm onto submitting my financials, moving on with my life, becoming a better person, and focusing on my D3.
There are plenty of ways to facilitate exposure with no direct links back to you.
