In limbo

[roist]

How was his affection and intimacy with you during his false piecing period?

OK I have not fully formulated my thoughts. Maybe i don't have any great insight. But here are some initial thoughts.

You have just been bombed. Regardless of where you were at or where you thought you were at, now you are at ground zero. You are back at the starting blocks.

You need to review the situation with baby eyes, I.e. no assumptions or beliefs. Then you need to put together your action plan. Did you put in place 180s or changes after the initial bomb? Are they still in place or do d they slip?

What helped you during the tough times in 2014? Can you start doing that again?

Your recent posts are mostly about H, which is probably normal.But this focus is preventing you from detaching and moving forward. It us obvious from how you write that for the moment you are too focused on H and everything he does/doesn't do is magnified in significance for you. I am not belittlingwhat you are going through.

It is what you DO that will make the difference in firstly how you feel and secondly how H sees you.