Hi, I was on this forum about 10 yrs ago when my husband left me and had an A. We were separated for 6 mos and he filed for divorce. We then reconciled. ten years later (as he is about to turn 50) here I am again. I got suspicious about a month ago when he told me he wasn't happy and wanted to be alone. I looked at his phone records and saw many times/minutes to the same number...I then checked his facebook and found a series of messages from his ex high school girlfriend! Some were flirtatious in nature. I called him out on all of it. He told me he wasn't happy and wanted to be alone but was not thinking of divorce. I told him the OW was a distraction and the communication needs to stop. He said ok. About a week later, he said he had talked to her but not as much...calling from work I am assuming. Then he changed his tune and told me he was not giving up on our marriage and family. Things were better, my trust is shot but I was working on it. Last week she texted him. I asked him about it and he said he called her to tell her to stop. I asked to see the texts and he said he deletes them (duh...). I got suspicious this weekend when he was late coming home from golf...sure enough a 45 min call...he called her. We get along fine, we go out and we have a healthy sex life. He tells me he loves me. I need advice: do I let him know I saw the phone call from Sat? I think he is probably expecting me to check the phone records and call him on it. maybe I should do the opposite? Do I act as if nothing is happening? He is home, and that is different from the last time. Last week when I discovered the texts, we had an argument. The next morning I told him I was going to take his word that he wasn't going to communicate with her and I would take his word that he was committed to our marriage....and then BAM...calls her on Saturday. I don't want my kids to have to go through all this. They were too young the last time to remember. What do I do?
