WAW is angry and filing divorce

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Hi V,

You are correct as far as I am perceiving the BIL. He never really tried to get a job before their child was born. Once or twice he would get a job and then quit a week later. He was always content living off of others. As the youngest of 6 siblings he lived the cush life as his parents gave him everything.

I remember my W saying how he always got things she and the older siblings did not. He married his W who comes from a well to do family and he was getting cars, vacations and motorcycles right out of the gate. Anyway not to go on and on, his wife is super smart and driven and at this stage of the game seems content being the bread winner and letting him be Mr. mom.

I think an issue that I have long seen with the WAW is her desire to have attention from her family. She seemed to be the "outcast" so to speak when we met, and did a lot to make sure she got attention, but me being more reserved and not feeling accepted so much made it a challenge. All of the siblings married someone the family knew when they were children their small town. I did not fit that mold.

But anyway, one of my goals this weekend is to minimize my looking back at all of the "whys" as each time we have to speak about the big D, more things come out. The picture is being repainted so quickly that I think I am even losing focus of what our 20 years together was like. It almost appears to have been a living hell for both of us......and I refuse to let that be my memory, because I would not want to fight for my family and MR if that was the truth.


I will focus on what I believe I fell short on as a husband, a father, and a great man, that my family should and will have.

My hope is that some day when her fog clears she can see the real history and determine what will truly make herself happy.

The door may still be open.