So my husband left about 3 months ago, and when I say "left" i mean said he doesn't know what he wants. He is officially moving out next week, to take a break from our marriage. Not saying he wants a divorce, but rather a break from our marriage. I've noticed that when I just go on with my life, don't reach out to him, don't email him, text, anything he is constantly reaching out. I know this is normal, but I guess my concern is, do I keep this up even after he's officially out? We have a 1 year old, so there are things we will need to talk about, but other than that, do I just act like I"m doing great? That's really when he seems to come around. Ugh!!
What you can't let him do is have his cake and eat it too. He wants a break? Fine, he's out. He needs to learn what that really means. It doesn't mean he gets access to you and the kid whenever he wants. Nope. That right is reserved for the family unit. A family unit he wants to walk away from. You have to be strong. Don't be his doormat because nobody respects a doormat. He has to feel the pain of what him leaving really means to his life. He can see you and the kiddo at your discretion and on your schedule. Period.
