Feelings come and go and in a long-term R or M that is even normal even if not desirable. I am sure at times you loved your W less too. Anyway feelings change.They can come back.
But it is unlikely to happen until OM is out of her head.But you cannot control that or the time that will take.
Pressure is not a good thing but you do need to be strong and stop her cake eating. She cannot pretend all is OK to D and then slip away into the night. It us not best that she leaves, it must be tougher. She is not welcome to play happy families and continue an A.
You may see confusion in your W. Maybe she is. That is good, BUTshe could be confused for a long long time yet. Do not mistake it a a sign everything will click back into place quickly. It could but do not count on it.
Best wishes
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
