Have you other threads here. This one starts in 2013 and then after a long gap restarts last week.I'd like to read the whole saga and see if I have any words of wisdom.

In the meantime I offer you my support.Best wishes.

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together