Got home to a clean house and a W doing laundry - that hasn't happened in 6+ months, still cold to me and I asked her if she's staying the night or leaving, I suggested she leave and that we need to respect the boundaries we setup as long as the A is still going in. I probably slipped a little too much getting into details of the A and R but in the end I still maintained it's best for her to leave until she's willing to give up the A. She hung around until D went to bed (much to my disagreement) but didn't want to get into a fight in front of the D. Still haven't said anything to her yet.

She was trying to justify the A or at least dismiss it saying it's not the problem - the root cause is she has no emotional feelings towards me anymore - that hurt but I realize it's probably the fog...

Me: 40 W: 45
T: 13, M: 11
1 D: 9

Suspect A 6/15
ILBINILWY 8/15, and 3/16
EA/PA Discovered 3/16
EA admitted 3/16
W Moved out 4/16
W opens R talk and says A over 1/17