WAW is angry and filing divorce

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Hi V.

I am laughing a bit, because I should have read my post a little more closely. Sometimes I know that we know more in our head than what we post. Her Uncle is really her Uncle so I know that is not an OM.
Interestingly enough though, my D17 mentioned a couple of weeks ago, that if she did not know better, that she thought her mother was having an EA with her brother for as much time as she was spending with him since this all went down.

The brother is 12 years younger and moved here last year with his wife and baby girl. The interesting thing is, that he has never held a job since he graduated from college as his wife is the sole bread winner in the home, so he basically lives off of her. Even for 3 years that his wife was in school, he did not have a job as they lived off of her student loans. Basically he lives this fantasy life, that my WAW is jealous of as she has shared with my D17. Anyway, not to go off on a tangent, but I laugh, because in a way he is the OM, just not in the sense of a WW. And the EA, may be more attached to a dream she has not another person at this time.

My sitch as of today is that the WAW found a place to move into in 2 weeks yesterday, but wanted me to help pay for everything. She wanted to take money from our accounts and get some help with the bills and other stuff you need when you move out, and then file the divorce to split the finances. I explained that is not how it works, because that is basically double dipping the cash and I would not support that. I advised drawing up a binding finance agreement be made as per the advice of the L so we can both be protected and it is an even deal. She was not happy as she says that I am just trying to screw her. There is also an inheritance that she wants that was given to me . She thought that she is entitled to it, but after yelling and screaming at me it came out that she wants to buy a house and without it, she won't be able to do it.
She then threw in that she thought that I wanted to do whats best for the family, and the house would be for my girls, but clearly I am just about the money as I always have been. Ouch

I'll admit, I may not have been the best at Dbing in this conversation as I had to push back forcefully a few times, but trying to do so in a calm manner did not go as I would have hoped. I did validate a lot, but sometimes I think it may not have sounded as sincere as it should have, but long story short, I saw tears from my WAW for the first time in many many years. I am not sure how I feel about that, but it was refreshing to see a little chink in the angry monster that has been here the past 2 months.
Then the dagger to my heart came as she reminded me we will all be better off and it's just to late for her and I to ever work out.

I know, I know, believe nothing and only 50% of what she does, and have no expectations, just focus on myself, my baby girls and a bright future.

Roller coaster day for sure.