Feeling he's in MLC, but in D process

[BrightFuture]

Hey, ciluzen, just catching up on your thread. I used to look at my H as a person who I can rely on, who would make the right decision, who would consider all the aspects when making a financial decision, etc… Now, I’m hearing the stories and seeing the patterns of someone who behaves like a teenager. It is not easy to understand, but it is the reality today. At BD time he also told me that his decision to leave the M will befit everyone, as I would be able to find a better partner for myself. He kept repeating it in a few conversations, until I told him that he cannot possibly know and cannot decide what is better for me.

I’m not sure if he told his work buddies and other crowd he was spending time with while away from home about his decision, but he was pretty secretive for quite some time with his family and close friends. Nobody knew what was going on until a few months later. I think he was not sure himself… Until he met that girl, my (mutual) friend’s cousin in Mexico. I think at that time he had this idea in his head that this must be the R he was looking for.

This is so true what the vets tell us here, that MLCers make their exit decision way before they deliver the BD to us. I’m just always curios what is holding them back and when is “that” time when they finally decide to give a speech. I think they intuitively know that they would be making a wrong decision, and it takes them some time to convince themselves that what they are about to do is good for everyone.

I chuckled at “accidental” skiing… It might become a new popular GAL activity… Not! It is great that you can handle this just fine, without getting your hopes up. At the same time… you just never know, and this might this thread of connection you want to keep for now.