Thanks so much, Betsey. He is really manipulative and controlling and is king of the double standard (but will debate to the death when called on that because of course the situations are (always) completely different and couldn't possibly be compared. /eyeroll/.
I just got a long reply saying how concerned he is; he thought "this was our agreement, isn't this what you had last year, why do you need so long to get back to me about summer plans, I am just asking for clear and timely communication like I always give to you."
I need to step back and breathe and not let myself get sucked into an argument.
I had to cut a really fun playdate short to drop D off to him. My girlfriends who I love complain about their H's-- you know, the ones who didn't walk out on them.
Sometimes it just feels really hard to stay calm with him. He's worried about his vacations with his gf, I'm worried about where my D and I will live.
Thanks again for all your support. It really means a lot. I know that someday this won't be so emotionally draining.
