You're right about the boards, it can be pretty depressing reading about all the pain and sorrow and there aren't many that actually get back together. It makes grim reading.
Originally Posted By: IrishM
Take it slow. Hopefully he is on his path back to you and your family. Let's hope hes learned what he needs to, Don't need this to be repeated in another 9 years.
Well said! It is so hard to take it slow, I just want the pain and heartache to be over, but at the same time, even if he came back tomorrow, I don't know how to get over the pain of what he has done to not just me but our children. It is the fact that he could do this to them that makes me unsure of how I feel about him. He is not the man I thought he was and he continues to show no empathy for how S11 feels about what he has done. It cannot just be swept under the carpet. I think he is afraid to come back and afraid to D. My family don't want me to get back together with him at all! They say that he's done it twice and he'll do it again. My parents are worried that they won't be around anymore when he does it next time and I'll have no one to turn to. H doesn't seem to realise that what he has done hasn't just impacted me, it has impacted so many people who trusted him again after the first time he left. It is going to be a long, hard road back and I'm worried he doesn't have what it takes to do it. He is very self centred. I absolutely don't want to be here again in another 9 years!
