Was recently told " there is a spiritual solution to everything"
I have mentioned before, we have never been raised with any type of religion or spirituality. I went to my first divorce care meeting (which I heard about on this forum) tonight. There was a lot of sorrow and sadness. it is a Christian based organization and I totally agree with its message regarding marriage. In a video it was discussed that reasons not supported by Christianity to get divorced are "incompatibility" and "it's better for the kids". These were the two reasons sited by husband as to why he wanted to divorce. That and we should not have to compromise on our happiness.
At first, I was watching these videos and feeling really angry because my husband is Christian. We were married by a pastor because of him and we had kids baptized because of him and his family. his mother is very religious and a pretty devoted church goer. While his mother does not want us to get divorced she has enabled her son and actually said things that were supportive of divorce. I was really angry at their hypocrisy. The only reasons supported were immorality or unbeliever leaving marriage. Neither of which I did.
Then I reminded myself, his choices are out of my control and I can only focus on me.
Someone in group said that most of people here are with philanderers and that their leaving is actually a gift from God.
Joining this forum and attending this support group and slowly reaching out to new people are major 180s for me. In the past, I have always taken up things I could do independently. Seeking some form of spirituality is a 180 for me as well. I would like to do same for kids but am deterred by husband and grandmas hypocrisy.
