Oh, Melweb - first off, great job not losing it, crying and not bothering to reason with him!!! Good job listening and validating. Nice job!! Really!!
Soon he will lure you back into a r talk. Stay consistent. Don't get dragged into it all as it will change and change. See how crazy his thought process is?!?
I don't know what advice to give you. My h threatened to leave as well. I think if he had, he'd be further along than he is now. But I am not sure how I would have handled that. Hard to tell as we get the MLCer we get and we have to forge ahead from there.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced