Mleigh - I understand that struggle, too. This is a tough situation, especially with young kids still on the scene. We value marriage as an instituition and I think none of us are fair-weather friends. We all know something is terribly off with our spouses. None of us know which of our spouses will wake up. So, here we all are.

What you say about there being no sign of your h in your home, sadly, I feel the exact same way. And my h lives here.

Taking it day by day is good advice. We try to grow stronger each day, become better people and do the best with the messed up deck we've been dealt.

You

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced