Kids should not be used especially not so directlyIMO. Sticking rigidly to a roster and not allowing access out of schedule is good.

If ye have no schedule organised yet, I would say that it does not suit. She left and needs to realize there are consequences. This is not malicious but reality.

Good luck

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together