Feyth - I'm going to offer you a little advice that will sound anti-DB. Bear in mind, I do believe in DBing, especially in cases where children are involved. However.... I think the equation is different for a young person who desires children.
Your H has already shown you that he can be erratic and unreliable. This may be simple MLC with depression, or it may be a manifestation of longstanding issues. (Sometimes you can't see those issues until you get some distance from your spouse; it took me quite some time after my divorce to recognize my ex's narcissistic traits which had always been present.)
My point is this: your H is not a good candidate to be the father of your future children.
My ex showed me early on that he had a propensity for infidelity. I thought it was a onetime youthful mistake, and took the risk of staying in the marriage. What I didn't realize at the time was that it wasn't just ME that was taking the risk. I was subjecting my future children to that risk as well.
My ex had another affair when my three kids were early teens. They were devastated although I successfully DBd the marriage back together. We had several more excellent years in our marriage until my ex hit 50 and went down the MLC rabbit hole for good.
My kids are in their mid twenties now and we have been divorced for several years. They all suffer to some degree from the divorce. And I feel guilty that I took that risk, of staying married to an adulterer, and they paid the price.
So.... If you do plan to have children,realize that even if your H came crawling back today, he would be a poor future risk.
