Forging a new path

[CWOL]

Melo, I have provided all those things you are missing to my WW and yet she still betrayed me. It's their waywardness that is to blame.
I owned a nice house in a great neighborhood before I met WW, married her, she never had to worry about money, took two or three vacations a year. Yet she still betrayed me with the guy who wouldn't stand up for her 20 years ago to his family.
Life is not fair.

[Melo]

So this Waywardness is something that comes from them independently of what we do? I thought I caused my W to go wayward.

[Melo]

So, if I didn't cause it, there's nothing I can do to fix it...all I can do is try and improve the things I want. But that will happen independently of her waywardness because it just so happensure that I am a husband who has a wayward wife, not a "bad" husband who created one?

[SH_]

Hang in there Melo.

Yeah brother I do feel trapped and alone. All I have been for the past 8 years has been a father and husband. Now I'm half a father and in limbo land. I left everything behind to move up here to be with her. Now I have nothing, half a family and no one who loves me or looks out for me. No one to tell all the things that happen to me, no one to share with.

I can relate to your pain and feelings of being alone, as that is where my chaotic brain tries to take me each day. There is value in filling in the brain space with motivation and information that can take you to a place of "I know I can do this!"

Many success stories come from the darkest of moments. Eric Thomas is one of my favorite motivational speakers and teachers. He was homeless and from a broken family, but found the strength and courage to make something out of himself.

I know how tough it is, but hang in there.

[bigybiz]

We can all relate to your pain and emptiness. I hope there is some comfort in knowing you are not alone with us.

[Melo]

Thank you much brother

[Melo]

Absolutely biz, it is comforting to know therected is a place where people truly understand. I will keep posting, reading and trying.

[bigybiz]

I'm sorry we can't meet for a meal, etc. Are there any "divorced dad" groups on your town? A friend of mine went to one. He did not love it but he did see others getting lots of value.

A church near me ran a course called "Divorce Care". I went to 3 of the 9 sessions. It was not for me - but I can see people getting something out of it.

[Melo]

Good ideas biz, I will definitely look into them!

[bigybiz]

Melo - If you want to send me a PM and we can chat offline - please go ahead.