She's really missing D and wants to see her Sunday. How many of you have used your kids as leverage to get back their WAW? I want her to come home for the MR, but if the D is a gateway or a catalyst to start that process is that OK? She has shown some signs of wanting to work on it (talked about ending contact with OM, Travel etc.) but nothing concrete yet.
I'm struggling with having S11 being a catalyst to R as well. I have been told by some therapists and my Divorce Care group never to put kids in the middle like that. However, I've been told otherwise by others as well. I do think my S11 will be the key if we are to R. I have already exposed WW's EA to my son early in the process, and he understood it completely. He does not want another man to be his "dad" and he will fight for me. But it is very difficult for an 11 year old to express that to his mother. I told him to use his own words and he did, not to repeat what I say.
I know that it tore my WW apart to hear my S's feelings on this. Right now she is still in the house so the separation hasn't occurred yet. She is still focused on the legal maneuvers of the D and her anger toward me because of the exposure. Once she does move out, however, it will be very hard on everyone. I'm hoping that will cause her fog to lift from her EA and see what reality of D is.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
