Life's a Dance-One Step Forward and Two Steps Back

[2Times2Many]

Mel, I agree with ciluzen in respect to H telling you how you feel and setting a boundary. My H used to do that all the time. I had to tell him several times that he doesn't get to decide how I feel. He pretty much stopped doing it and when he does, I remind him again that he can't possibly know how I feel.

I think that's part of the justification stuff they use. I think my H decides I "feel" such and such a way about him (negative, of course) and therefore would never want him back, would never forgive him, etc. so it's okay for him to keep doing what he's doing.

I also wonder sometimes if that's a projection. I wonder if somewhere in all that fog, the thought process goes ... If 2T were treating me this way, this is how I would think and feel about her. Therefore, since I'm treating her this way, this is how she thinks and feels about me.