Need practical ideas to aid my 180/Last Resort.WAW

[bigybiz]

Vapo: Thanks for your input.

My butt is in gear - I just need to get to the next level.

I run 5 k every day followed by a short dumbbell workout
I'm catching up on the house repairs/projects
I'm doing more of the house work than I've every done.
I started cooking again.
I keep my kids - engaged and entertained plus I openly talk to them about what is going on in the house
My work is going OK - I'm slowly ratcheting it up.
I'm decluttering
I'm checking in with coaches, pastors and councilors
I keep up with friends, family I've even made some new friends.
I don't wait around for her and her mood.
Primarily talk to her face to face or by phone about relevant topics i.e. kids, house, etc (occasionally by phone). I never text, email, etc

You have no idea all the bad behavior and feelings I have left behind.


My 180 is going well - I think about something I would do and then try and do the opposite. I'm trying to be unavailable and mysterious - that's a bit of a struggle.

I do struggle with keeping her accountable and not being pushy. I'm guessing its a bit of test on her part. i.e. You volunteered to register him for swimming - it starts this week...

That's one of my real struggles - conducting everyday life while she thinks I'm trying to control her. Again, I think she is trying to test/bait me.

If she chooses not to register our son for swimming to spite me - the child looses. If I go ahead and do it so the child can go - I'm being controlling. That's a tough place for me.


I really think I'm on the right path. Trust, me fear is not issue.

I'd like to get to the next level. Yes, that means letting her go. For me letting her go means filling the void - within reason.

That's why I'm looking for practical ideas, books to read, videos to watch, etc.

Anything that will keep me moving forward.