Nygal, I found this analogy while reading through some of the older threads.
' If your spouse is in the doorway and you are there in the room doing something, they will watch you but not come in. However, as soon as you move out of their sight, they have to step in through the doorway to find out where you are and what you are doing without them.'
Perhaps next time W reaches out to you, you could just (and only) validate? By doing just that, you are keeping the road home smooth but you're not putting yourself out as plan b.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
