Well, the mail thing is to get your ass in gear. Just start with the small steps and soon small steps will add into visible progress.
Do not get caught into over analyzing things, because that can lead into analysis paralysis, where you are analyzing each and every move and sign and the result is, you are [censored] scared to do anything, because you fear it might negatively impact the relationship with your W.
Fear is the mind killer. You really should get your W out of your head and also quit trying to get into your W's head to anticipate her moves again searching for that illusive silver bullet. The ONLY way you have a shot of getting back with her is by letting her go and the sooner you get to terms with it, the sooner you will be on your way to progress. There is NO OTHER WAY.
It totally goes against common sense, I know. And it is going to take time, a $hitload of time, think months and years instead of days and weeks. And the main objective is getting you back, first to start a relationship with you again, getting your W back will become less and less important and soon will wade in comparison with getting the new YOU 2.0. Finally you have the opportunity to become the man you were meant to become. There is soooooo much room to improve yourself, soooo much and every day wasted on thinking on what your W is doing or not doing and hoping she isn't fcucking other men is a COMPLETE waste of time and mind...
Trust me, I am right and embracing it will save you tons of time...
