That is why I am seeking input here. I think there have been times during this relationship that I may have been a little over-bearing in our relationship. I think there is still healing that needs to take place in her--especially in the area of trust based on her past experience with being cheated on.
Perhaps "going dark" is not quite the right words..."going dim" perhaps? A comment she had made to me in the past was "do you want me, or do you just need someone"? Pulling back yet remaining faithful may allow her time to heal, allow me to heal more, and help get this thing behind us with the ex once the court issues are settled. However, I also fear it will backfire if she feels that my distance is a sign that I am seeking someone else or have found someone else.
Then again, maybe some of the DB principles are not applicable in this case since we are not yet married. I am just opening up out here. This forum was very helpful to me six years ago when I was going through the D.
