I understand not wanting to expose the affair. Just show her through action what a great man she is going to lose.
TxHubby, Lostman thanks for your valuable input. Today I saw my IC and told her TxHubby's story and got some feedback.
I'm going to agree with everyone I've gotten input from:
agree w TxHubby that I'm out of luck until my WW's Affair fantasy bubble is popped (if ever)
though I also agree with all the reading and support in these forums which spell out that I cannot control what she does, I can only control myself and focus on GAL and my D. She must take this path of hers where-ever it takes her.
My IC also thinks that while blowing up her affair (even though my motivation would be for saving our family rather than vengeance), there's still way too much risk. I will be blamed by her and I risk reconciliation chances, and an amicable co-parenting R.
My only hope is that naturally her affair will be caught at work, her fantasy is destroyed (not my my hand), and she realizes all that is lost.
For now I just have to deal with the pain and jealousy, assume the marriage is over for the time being, and get along on my life.
Any tips for dealing with that kind of pain?
Sandi2 or any other WAWs, do you think my W is wayward or just done with me because of my betrayal? Should I continue to use LRTs?
Me37 W33 T:8 M:5 D3 BD 11/2015 EA+PA w boss 12/2015 S 3/2016
Im stronger because I had to be Im smarter because of my mistakes happier because of the sadness Ive known and now wiser because I learned
