You seem strong and in a good place making wise choices
The OP is usually a sick and desperate person first they are dating a married person I don't think they think so much of their future partner as a cheater they are cheaters too probably people with low esteem and little morals Sometimes I read on the boards they have addiction issues my XH wife 14 years his junior has psych issues Ive been told she never actually met his kids while they were in this area I like what u said and I feel the same
She can have XH..I wish them both the best it it wasn't her it would have been someone Mlcers usually get OP
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