I guess my posts come across as looking for the Silver Bullet. Every day I'm DB/DR like a champ. My progress is awesome. For me realizing what I can "fix" and what I can't is vital to my recovery.
When I watched this guy's video a lighting bolt hit me. Much of what my W is experiencing is due to her childhood. Yes, that may seem basic to many - but nonetheless it was eyeopening. And yes, much of the way I responded was due to my childhood.
I know I can't fix her inner child - but what I learned after watching that video is why she may be been acting the way she has i.e. why she has given up being a mom, who's opinion is important, etc. This was huge for me and pushed me further forward in my GAL.
If I can learn to listen and validate her (something I've not done in 20 years) and possibly talk about her background in a safe way then and only then can I come out of this with my head screwed on right and not lead my kids to certain destruction.
M:50 W:53 MR:20 D:21 S:17 S:11 BD-Sept 2015 Suspected PA Sept 2015-Confronted W & OM Dec 2015 Actually EA In house Sep:Jan/16-May 2016 W moved out:May 22 2016 OM-Intro Oct/17-On scene July/Aug 2017
