Getting out of in house S (8)

[RAI]

Hey vise,

I just read your whole recent thread. You should re-read Fogg's post from a few pages back. It is really spot-on. Also, Did you read ...? You may benefit from it.

I think you are being manipulated by your W. Every time she throws you a bone or kind word you hold onto the rope even tighter. She is about to, or is already, dating!!! she has moved on. The acts of kindness are meant to lessen her own guilt, temp check, and/or to keep you from dropping the rope.

You need to drop the rope. It is consuming you. Until you S, she still has you in her grasp. Things are pretty cushy for her right now. Nice new car, nice clothes, losing weight, a job - and you there for her. maybe you should be a bit of a pr**k. You are not going to nice her back. What loss has she felt so far that will shock her back into reality?

Also you only have one family. Right now you have no contact with them. Why? Because you are afraid it will upset your W, who is walking all over you. Perhaps this whole ordeal was placed in your path to bring you closer to your family or to force you to reconcile with them.

Why does she get to control the sale of the house? Why can't you sell it? Or at least make the final decision on the matter?

I'm sorry this is so rambling, but I get a sense that you have completely lost yourself in your W's crazy, and I did not know where to start. I am going through in house S, so I sympathize. I am civil, and I say please and thank you. I never turn down a chance to be with kids, and I respond to W when it involves kids, but other than that it is NC.

I am just trying to provoke you to think about who you are and who you want to be. You deserve much much much better. I am sorry you are going through this.

RAI