Hi Thornton - yes, you had mentioned this earlier in the thread and I did notice when I adopted that positive attitude her attitude towards me had been better but I had let that slip. I'm going to turn that back on but I think my wife is really hurt inside and I was wondering if I should write her a letter owning up to the things I've done wrong with an apology. We still haven't talked through all of our issues but she often refers to a list of issues she has and she no doubt feels they are resolved but at the very least never really discussed and acknowledged by me. Or maybe I should just sit down with her and try and get her to let it all out and just take it and not defend. I do feel she has a lot of pent up feelings of hurt she needs to get out and this may be why she is having so much trouble being around me. I think no matter what I need to hear her pain whether I like what I hear or not. It is how she feels. Nothing is going to happen over night but I was thinking if we can talk through the issues and me not be defensive about them perhaps she may see that I'm starting to change. I would say I have changed a lot already but she hasn't been able to see it. I'll try and get back on here on a more regular basis moving forward. It's helpful to get feedback and advice from everyone here.
