Can you outline your timeframe clearly? When did ye meet, marry, bomb drop, etc.
For the show if you want to watch it with her do so. Because you want to not because she does. That is the key to deciding. It is difficult to make decisions because we wonder what the DB way is. In time it becomes more evident.
Why would you not bring the dog, especially if you are concerned too?
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
We met and got married in order to give our relationship an opportunity(her visa expired, so we needed a green card) we had said 6 months and if it wasn't working call it quits. Needless to say I felt things were going very well. I was/am madly in love with her, and I feel she reciprocated the same.
As far as the dog is concerned it's not an issue about the dog (I have been monitoring his leg and i have seen improvement over the past days) it wasn't about taking him but simply whether to just say yes to her request, same as the show.
I think I will watch the show with her, and if she wants to go to the vet we will go this morning when she returns from work.
Thank you roiste for your input.
First date 12/24/13 M 3/12/14 BD 2/8/16 Working on it alone since 2/8/16 Doing things wrong 2/8/16 Doing things different 3/12/16
People don't spend 24/7 on this site. Most people here are dealing with our own issues and problems, as well as the rest of life. People reach out to offer support or advice at their own rhythm.Sometimes that may seem slow. Keep posting. The more people know, the more likely someone will come to help.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
My apologies for my lack of patience.I am able to practice my patience better in life, I felt I could release my frustrations here. I honestly do not mean to make it seem as I don't appreciate everything.
I decided to go to the theme park with her so I will let you know how that goes... I suspect it may be a test, it may also be she just wants company, or that she misses me. Most likely a test, and with that mindset I am going to make sure I keep a level head and be a pleasure to be with. Any other words of wisdom before I go?
Thank you roiste and cadet.
First date 12/24/13 M 3/12/14 BD 2/8/16 Working on it alone since 2/8/16 Doing things wrong 2/8/16 Doing things different 3/12/16
A friend of hers told me that she likes the fact I enjoy staying home and spending time with her as opposed to going out, which is true I really would rather us be together at home instead of going out and "socializing" always. Occasionally we would go to events but for the most part it's just us. Is there a way I can use this to help me? I feel that GAL is counter active to something we both enjoy.
I will still GAL I just think I need to really pinpoint some very key things.
This friend also told me that she(W) thought I was very satisfying in bed. I know that a marriage isn't built soely on sex, but this information keeps making me think that if we did have sex it might be beneficial as it would release endorphins and may get her to see from another perspective. (No sex since 2/6/16)
First date 12/24/13 M 3/12/14 BD 2/8/16 Working on it alone since 2/8/16 Doing things wrong 2/8/16 Doing things different 3/12/16
Cadet is right. Marriage didn't get broken in a hurry, so you can't look for the quick fixes. I spent the entire first month after BD looking for quick fixes and all it did was cause more pain and more hurt.
Going out to an amusement park can be fun, but it's just one fun day. Do it if you want to, but not because it will save the marriage (one activity and one days won't). Don't get into M/R conversations. Just go out and enjoy the moment.
Keep posting and keep reading.
Me - 32 WW - 30 D 11, D 3, D 2 T - 9 years M - 8 years BD - 2/16
