IP regarding MC, when you did it maybe your H was still in love with OW, so it wouldn't have been worth anything or maybe he doesn't want to be told that he has a problem. I went to MC with STBXH but he was with OW so had no intention to deal with his own issues! At the beginning of our separation he started to see IC but it only lasted 2 months. You can make your H go it has to come from him.
Sadly Rouky it is the latter: H cannot stand being wrong or anyone thinking bad of him. None of our issues have ever been caused by him: even the OW! You're right, I cannot make him go. I think at this point to even suggest it would scare him away again.
