Hmm, I think V makes some interesting points and I don't disagree with her perspective. I also think there is a bit of a father/daughter dynamic here. Your W talks to you about things I talk to my Dad about - what shall I do about car troubles, cash etc and my Dad (bless him) helps out.

I can see merit in mixing things up a little there and I can also see merit in your house being your house - ie: your W doesn't get to come and go as "Wednesday Mum" or whatever. My guess is your main concern will be the kids as you'll feel they benefit from your W being more available to them. However, would it be better for your W to have a reasonable place of her own and be able to see the kids in her own place?

I'd also love to see you doing a social/support activity just for RD....but I've been harping on about that one for ever....but only because I care xx

JMHO and hopefully helpful to you lovely RD xx

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