I would not have said the door is always open. It is like saying go have your affair and I'll wait here regardless.

I would not let her back without those conditions. Reread sandi's threads, but basically it boils down to respect (firstly for yourself and secondly by W).

Question for you: who says what to D today about why W is not there.? It should have been W yesterday and should be her today.But it looks like you are left to do her dirty work. I'll leave this to the vets to advise you on.

Best wishes

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together