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Have you figured out how to address the A?


Me-LBH, 48
Spouse-WW, 48
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Son, 12
BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding)
BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA)
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Got it Tim, thanks for keeping me straight. I will go to the movies tonight and I won't tell her anything I'm just going to disappear.


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Hey CWOL, I was thinking I will let it be for now and keep it in my back pocket. I did email OM'so wife with work pretenses to see how much she knows and will contact his cousin as well. So I am just gathering information, suffering in silence, GAL and biding my time.


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Keep strong Melo. I won't even pretend to know what is going through her mind. Just remember to keep working on you and keep improving yourself.


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Thank you Lostman, your support means a lot to me


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So now I'm angry. The more I think about it the angrier I get. Not only did she talk to me all nice yesterday, but she also pulled her shirt up and told me"my back hurts right here, don't look at my a $$ or anything" (she was wearing really tight pants and her a$$ did look great) and then had me put my finger on the spot. But she wants the OM to kiss her passionately?!Why not just go with him? Have him touch her where it hurts, and leave me alone. Why?


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So I'm going to the movies tonight without saying anything. I don't know how to react to certain scenarios. What if she calls me? Do I pick up? What if she texts me? I'll tell her if she asks tomorrow, I think? Or should I not?


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Ok I left, I'm having second thoughts about this. She did tell me that she usually goes and drives around and meditates, so it's not like I have no clue where she is. Just leaving knowing that she is going to the gym feels wrong.


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Well she didn't call, she is way better at this detachment stuff than I am. I saw Deadpool, hilarious! I feel pretty good now.


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Great for you Melo. Do not volunteer any information. If she asks be vague. Where did you go last night? Oh I just needed to get out a bit.


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Suspect A 11/15
Confirm A 1/16
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