Your husband, to me, seems immature. Did something possibly happen in his childhood? He's not able to accurately figure out his emotions, and what to do with them... maybe?
I know I've grown tremendously understanding my basic emotions, secondary emotions, and the triggers that spur them. I can recognize why I'm getting upset, that I AM upset, or hurt, or happy, and express that emotion verbally, and not using sarcasm, passive-aggressiveness, hurting words, or silence to express them - telling someone what I'm feeling and why. Cool stuff I've picked up in counseling, and I feel like an adult now!!! LOL, 40 years old, and I finally feel like I have a grasp of this grown-up adult thing.
I'm SOOO sorry to hear things haven't worked out. I feel like you've done a lot of growing up and self-discovery. Your H might need to hit bottom and figure himself out before he knows what he wants and how to respond appropriately. The question then - will you still be available and around? (This is my question of the moment)
M46, EXWW46 M15 T17 D20, S19, D13 M - Addiction since 1998 W EA/PA #1 2013/2014 W EA #2 June 2015... BD 1 Big D talk 9/15 BD 2 - EA/PA disc 10/30/15 Served D 1/22/16 Divorced 5/25/16 (yes, that fast!)
