Her AP was a neighbor but they did communicate a lot through work computers so his W, after discovering the A, told her H's company and my wife's. He got fired, my wife was asked to resign, which she did. Their little fantasy world exploded.
If you don't blow up the paradigm, nothing will change. I screwed that up. I should have acted much quicker and with much more confidence. Women respond to strong male leadership. Being the passive male sitting quietly while they cheat is not attractive to a woman in any way whatsoever.
Thx TxHubby, how did your W's AP react to his W's action on exposing him? How did your W feel about the other wife exposing her?
At that moment they felt suicidal. Their fantasy exploded all over them. They lost their spouses, families, and careers in the blink of an eye. All for what? What I observed was guilt, shame, humiliation. Expected reactions. It was pretty ugly but the upside was the fantasy was blown away. Everyone, and I mean everyone, knew what they had been doing. There was no possible way for it to continue. The ugly dark secret that affairs are had been drug into the light of day and put on to display for all to see. When you drag an affair into the light of day where all the friends, family, etc. can see the pain that is being inflicted by a spouse then it becomes almost impossible for the affair to continue. Affairs absolutely thrive on secrecy. They have to have secrecy to survive. Without secrecy they can't survive. Once you get them out of the affair then the affair fog dissipates very quickly. That fog where all us betrayed spouses say "we don't even recognize him/her anymore". I see most of BS's on this site say that very thing. You want that behavior to stop? Then blow the fantasy up.
