Thanks for the feedback fellas! Wish I could get more advice here..........
16-Daughter and I will probably NOT move out of state (my luck some stupid law about abandonment or W's rights to 16D) would probably come into play; even though my 16D wants nothing to do with W. We're going to stay here and Detach and GAL on the other side of the town instead.
My therapist said that there is "No Way... that OM has properly grieved the loss of his wife (died in a car crash after being together 33 years even if their marriage was bad) in only 6 weeks when he started dating and having sex with my W. He said it was a classic rebound relationship that will most likely fail.
In my session, I referred to my W + OM as two emotional octopus that won't let go of each other out of fear and loneliness. He nodded and agreed. He did however say, it could take 3 weeks or it could take 3 years... there's no way of knowing and for me to be prepared for the worst.
