Hey Ghost, Thanks for the support and for checking into my sitch. I will write a brief update below. I dropped into your thread briefly. I see you are in your own purgatory. Afraid to move forward, wishing to go backward. Analysis paralysis. Been there, gets tiring. Trust me, you never want to go backwards. You are getting good advice there. I wish you a lot of luck. P.S. We are the same age and have a similar family size. Good to know ya.
V, I am definitely in a holding pattern. I call it the waiting place. I don't think I can do Pink Floyd, but I can definitely do Fleetwood Mac and Santana. throw in a little Heart (Wilson sisters) and I am right there with you.
A brief update. Still doing in-house separation. Spending less and less time concerning myself with what WW is doing. Spending more time being grateful for what I do have: supportive family and friends, wonderful children, health, employment, roof over my head, faith in G-d.
Doing a bit more GAL. Saw movie with friend last night. A couple of friends came over last week. I'm playing guitar - thanks youtube for teaching me every riff I wanted to know 25 years ago. resumed weight training. Will resume running once it warms up a bit. Bought a new suit - FOR ME. If I could have complete separation this instant, I would be fully self- sufficient. Feels good. So what's left:
We had our first pre-trial - where the judge hears the case. WW is amazingly entitled. As I said before, she wants the house - does not want to pay a penny for it. She does not want to get a job. On the bright side, her lawyer said that in principle they do not have a problem with shared parenting (hopefully they don't change their minds). Without going into detail, they are sinking very low and have employed devious, even ludicrous tactics.
Because the status of the house has not yet been decided, it will be in-house S for the foreseeable future. Ughh.
Still being stalked by OM. Most recently, he showed up behind my Ls office after the pretrial. Thank goodness for PTSD: as soon as I see a vehicle resembling his, I turn on my cell-cam. got the whole thing on tape. I have no idea why he follows me. Such a loser. It was scary and rattled me for about 48 hours.
