His LL has changed because he has changed, he is in crisis and will be for some time .... During this time he will anchor test to ensure you stay precisely where he left you, this is like a old tshirt .... We love that shirt but only wear it around when no one is looking. With you staying where he left you this frees him to do things he wants, there isn't any change in him because he HS all the cake he can eat.
On of the things in this I think goes overlooked is how long the crisis takes and how broken they are, and will be. I will plant this seed in you, hopefully it takes some root... Use this time to become stronger, you will have to become stronger to last past the crisis. He will temp check/anchor test/touch and go .... You have to be the rock during all this, you have to become hardened to a point where you see him as the person he is at this moment and not who you once knew/loved. Truth darts here and there to steer them along, even some tough love in dashes. Get detached to a point where You see the checks and tests for what they are.... Just that.
