Question about parenting. Sometimes my youngest cries and talks about wanting mommy to come home. Should I share with her how much pain her choices are causing the kids by facetiming her and letting them tell her that? I am going to get them into some counseling to help them out, and learn what is best for them (i.e. me comforting or if FT is better. I will follow the professional recommendations for what is best for kids, but would this be pursuing? I'm thinking just to text and say they want to talk to her. She is in denial about the pain D will/is causing the kids.
The pain this is causing the kids makes it so hard to not be cold or angry towards her. I went back and read some journals from closer to BD and my attitude and desires to be with her continue to decrease everyday. I love the woman that I married, but not my WW. I have implemented things to minimize my interactions with WW, by having a family member pick them up from her. I think it is best right now to limit my contact as to avoid being cold or other setbacks. Going dark is probably the best move for me right now..??
Meet with L yesterday and since she now has a job, they think she should be the one giving me money and not the other way around (I give her the minimal amount of $$ for meals when she has the kids). If there was a D, she would be the one required to pay child support even though I make a lot more. I am not sure this is good DB'ing to tell her that she now needs to provide for them herself @ the very minimum for the time she has them.
