I just posted on HWs thread too, that for me, I need to lay my head down every night knowing that I did everything I could to save this M. And you're right--if we become the best possible version of ourselves and they still walk, then their loss!! Not that I want to become a doormat, or lose any self respect. I am hoping I have a good grip on that. Like you said, I just wanted and needed to be happy with ME!
Its not so much that I am worried about his LL or trying to fill his tank. I have just NOTICED that his LL has changed. I read the book, and I don't remember a LL being able to change. But maybe he has been bilingual this whole time and I never noticed. But, when appropriate, I do try to tell him he looks nice, or thank him for helping with whatever. Not over the top fawning or gushing about his awesomeness.
Cil, Yes, this is what my H is doing too. How do you validate and agree with feelings when they are telling you how YOU feel?
Me 47 H 49 S18 S15 M 21 BD #1 11/09/15 ILYBNILY I believe we are Piecing 1/2/16 Suspect EA/PA? 2/28/16 BD #2 "He tried, but needs passion." 2/28/16 Confirm PA 3/11/16, he's leaving in June H leaves 5/7/16
