Can you outline your timeframe clearly? When did ye meet, marry, bomb drop, etc.

For the show if you want to watch it with her do so. Because you want to not because she does. That is the key to deciding. It is difficult to make decisions because we wonder what the DB way is. In time it becomes more evident.

Why would you not bring the dog, especially if you are concerned too?

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together