I'm not sure if exposing their affair is the right course of action because of the risk of damaging an amicable co-parenting relationship or even possible reconciliation. Also given my betrayal (though it was not an A) my W is holding me 100% at fault for breaking the marriage down at this point in her mind. Me intervening in her affairs at this point would be counted as just abother big character flaw on my part.
I feel the only chance is that she needs to explore this path and if and when it fails she may come around to see what she's lost.
What kills me is that she is prepared to give up a marriage and 50% of her daughter instead of trying to fix our MR. It must be thr addiction of a secret A with her boss.
There is zero reason at this point for her to change anything. She has her affair partner when she wants him and has you at home that will do whatever she wants. It's a perfect situation for her. Sure, it'll tear you apart, but she doesn't care about that. If you continue to allow the affair to flourish you have literally zero chance of saving this.
Thanks so much for your feedback TxHubby, I'm really thinking about it now. I noticed your sitch involved your W's A. Can you ask her how she would have reacted if her AP was her boss and you got him fired?
What are other's thoughts of this approach?
btw, Thanks everyone for the help! It really means a lot to me.
Me37 W33 T:8 M:5 D3 BD 11/2015 EA+PA w boss 12/2015 S 3/2016
Im stronger because I had to be Im smarter because of my mistakes happier because of the sadness Ive known and now wiser because I learned
