Raine- Thank you for posting. While each situation is different I am struck but how little we can change things after BD. It is completely up to the spouse and while I don't want to sound negative I think that usually BD is something they do after they have set course weeks or months or years earlier. I am not trying to be negative but the vast majority of the time it seems as if the spouse is mentally checked out long before he gives us notice. We can't fix them and we didn't break them but geez I just wish they had more faith in the marriages and families they professed to love so deeply for most of their lives.
I wish you the happy ending but I sense you are reimagining what that looks like for your life. Please know that your faith in your H was not wasted. Please know that you did your best and if H is unable or unwilling to see that then he is not worthy of you at this moment in time.
You have lots of people supporting you whatever the future holds. Hang on to that and come here if you need to vent or ask questions or cry or scream. It is all understandable and just fine with us.
M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters BD: 5/14 Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW D Final 9/17
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.” ― Maya Angelou
