I'm right there with you bigybiz. We will learn as we go and share from our experiences and hope and pray for a better future while continually trying to improve ourselves for our families and futures. Thanks for sharing your perspectives and I appreciate the support and the things that you have shared as we go through these challenges.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
Sorry to read your situation. Keep fighting the good fight. My WW also had (or is still having) EA/PA. I have to fight like hell not to snoop. I can't snoop anymore though because it is too damaging to ME.
What they are doing is about them. They obviously don't care how those actions effect us or they wouldn't do it. I have stopped trying to learn more about it and have stopped trying to talk about it. That just makes us more unattractive to them.
Talk to us here and we can encourage and support. Be strong brother.
Me - 32 WW - 30 D 11, D 3, D 2 T - 9 years M - 8 years BD - 2/16
M:50 W:53 MR:20 D:21 S:17 S:11 BD-Sept 2015 Suspected PA Sept 2015-Confronted W & OM Dec 2015 Actually EA In house Sep:Jan/16-May 2016 W moved out:May 22 2016 OM-Intro Oct/17-On scene July/Aug 2017
Thank you Lostman, I really appreciate the encouragement. Sometimes I just wish I could close my eyes and it would all be back to the way it was before.
Ok so my crazy a$$ W just said tay that we need to go out and have dinner so we can just talk...what?! I said sure and then she finished the conversation that we had begun during Easter weekend. She says that she knows that it's been hard for her to accept my new religiosity, but she wanted me to know that in her eyes I am doing it right because God is 1st. She said ghats even when she gets rebellious and doesn't look after the kids the way she should. Then she looked at me and said, that I don't say anything about it, but she notices it and she needs to drive and meditate to feel better.
Ok so my crazy a$$ W just said tay that we need to go out and have dinner so we can just talk...what?! I said sure and then she finished the conversation that we had begun during Easter weekend. She says that she knows that it's been hard for her to accept my new religiosity, but she wanted me to know that in her eyes I am doing it right because God is 1st. She said ghats even when she gets rebellious and doesn't look after the kids the way she should. Then she looked at me and said, that I don't say anything about it, but she notices it and she needs to drive and meditate to feel better.
So she acknowledged her shortcomings as a Mom, her rebellious streak, she thanked me for not reacting to this marital crisis by letting myself go and drinking and said that I washouldn't reacting in the best possible way given the circumstances...she has really lost her mind...
Be careful she is not temp checking you. Just making sure she still has you wrapped around that finger. If I were you I would slow down with the repeated private talks. Don't be rude but right now she is saying dinner NOW and you say ok. When she says jump, you jump. Oh I know you want to cling to anything possible good but she is making sure her back up plan (you) is still available. Distance yourself. Sorry I know that is not what you want to hear but IMHO it is what you need to do. Make sure to keep GALing!
Me 41 W 33 M 2013 Suspect A 11/15 Confirm A 1/16 She moved out 2/14/16 Stepson 13 Stepson 16
