Thanks for the help Sandi. I have been reading many of your threads about WWs and definitely am learning.

2 questions:

I am not snooping as much because it is terrible for me. I cannot handle the anxiety that comes with it and I turn into a complete mess. I got proof of the A and she has admitted the A, so I don't really need more details than that. She does not seem to be talking to OM, but I have no way of knowing because I don't want to snoop. Should I continue to refrain from looking and just be hopeful that she is being honest and not talking to OM?

What do I do when she initiates physical intimacy?


Me - 32
WW - 30
D 11, D 3, D 2
T - 9 years
M - 8 years
BD - 2/16